One thing that I have found is a common challenge on this path is that spiritually conscious people tend to not allow themselves to feel their negative emotions. They are strong, capable people who in general are very positive, yet in order to “stay positive” and have things “going good” they often ignore their emotions.
Sound familiar?
It is also a common fear that if you let yourself feel your negative emotions, you will plunge to the depths of them and never get out. That if you feel hurt by what someone says and you just let yourself feel it you are dwelling on it and it’s going to feel worse.
I really want to shed some light on this because it is one of the most damaging things I see spiritually conscious people tend to do to themselves. First, let’s look at what is really happening when you ignore or deny your emotions.
Do you often feel like people don’t seem to care about you as much as you want them to? About your needs and how you feel? Is your partner hurtful without realizing? Do you give so much and receive little in return?
These are all situations that you tend to attract when you are ignoring your negative emotions. And of course, this furthers the emotional denial because you are upset and it appears as though they are causing it… but they’re not. YOU are unconsciously.
Why does this happen?
Let’s go back to basic Law of Attraction, you attract what matches your energy.
By ignoring your negative emotions, what do you think is happening energetically?
You are saying that your feelings do not matter. It doesn’t matter that you’re hurt, sad, angry, in pain, heartbroken. You literally send out a vibrational message that you are not important and don’t matter.
So if that’s happening energetically, what do you think you attract?
People who tend to treat you as if you don’t matter, they don’t consider your feelings or needs. Or, you attract this behavior from the people in your life, even if they don’t mean to be like this.
And, by the way, if you are not allowing yourself to feel a negative emotion, you may think you are tricking the Law of Attraction but you’re not. You attract what matches your ENERGY. If you allow your emotions to flow, they dissipate, if you deny them, they become a part of your energy field and you attract more that matches them.
But the good news is that you can turn this around, and it doesn’t have to be as difficult as you think.
Now I want to be clear up front that I am suggesting this for everyday situations where you are experiencing a not-too-deep or intense negative emotion. Deeper negative emotions tend to point to stronger, deeper energetic patterns. I don’t suggest you try to make those go away by just feeling them as they are energetically anchored into your energy field and they are there for a reason you must resolve before they will release. I prefer an easier way to shift old patterns and that is using my Intuitive Healing Process. Or if you feel it may be a psychological issue, definitely seek professional help to get through it so you can get to a place of honoring yourself and feeling your emotions as you can see it is very important!
So, let’s shift the energy around this so you can be attracting better treatment from those in your life and so you can begin to feel important, honored and valued.
It all starts with you and how you treat yourself, when I say express your emotions, I mean get them out. This doesn’t mean everyone needs to know what your emotions are, again, this centers around YOU and I don’t even care if you’re the only one who knows about them at this point. In fact, it can feel good to get your negative emotions out on paper then rip it up and dispose of it, it’s a freeing experience!
Now first, I want to go back to the fear most people have, that if you let yourself feel your negative emotions you will be consumed by them. I have found that if your intention beforehand is to honor yourself and to feel better in doing so, the more you allow yourself to feel your emotions, the more they just dissipate as you get to the depths of them! Okay, so next time you feel a slightly negative emotion coming up, instead of just brushing it off or pretending you’re fine, here’s what I want you to do:
1. Stop and give yourself some quiet time to yourself and get out your journal. Even a piece of paper will do if you don’t have a journal yet, you can even throw it away after if you don’t want anyone to see it. The point is not to have a record of your emotions, the point is to EXPRESS your emotions.
2. Start out by setting an intention or asking for support, silently or on paper. This can go something like “Please help me to honor myself and my emotions and to get to a place of feeling better”, or “I intend to go higher.” This can really make the time you spend most effective so you don’t feel like you’re dwelling on your negative emotions. You are not doing this to punish yourself, you are doing it to HONOR yourself.
3. You can also imagine yourself surrounded by the light of your Higher Self or Source, so that as you allow yourself to face your emotions, you are allowing a higher vibration to replace them. If your negative emotions are like a dark room, you are surrounding that dark room with light and by allowing yourself to feel them you are in essence opening the door and allowing the light to flood in.
4. Start writing out how you feel. You can even start your sentence off with “I feel…” and go from there. And as you are writing, let yourself FEEL your negative emotions. Don’t just write and focus on how others are behaving, that’s not the point, the point is to feel your emotions so they can begin to dissipate. And again, the point is also to honor yourself and send out the vibration of “my feelings are important, I am important!”
5. Continue until you feel relief and you feel a bit lighter.
6. Once you feel some relief, celebrate that you have taken a big step by honoring yourself and your emotions!
7. To end on a positive note, begin to write about how you want to feel and as you do, allow yourself to feel these positive, good-feeling emotions.
Making yourself a priority and honoring yourself and your emotions is an important part of your journey. This shift to allowing yourself to feel your emotions is one of the most important one you can make, and until you show you’re important you can’t attract different from others!
Copyright 2009 Fia Crandall
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Thursday, October 8, 2009
Friday, March 27, 2009
Building An Unshakable Foundation
Copyright 2009 Fia Crandall
Is there something shaking your foundation in your life right now?
Does life seem to be forcing major changes all around you?
When this happens it can make us feel fear, insecurity and sometimes even shock.
We so often feel secure in our lives when the outer situations make us feel secure. But that security is an illusion as many of you have come to find out. We feel comforted by our "rocks", our home, our relationships, our job, our financial situation. But what happens when one of those rocks starts shifting or disappears altogether? All of those "rocks" can not give you a true and unshakable foundation. Why do you think it is so hard on us when any of those rocks changes?
In the last couple of years many of my old, steady "rocks" have disappeared. I know what it's like, when this happens it can feel like we lost our foundation. It can be unsettling and scary.
Have you been experiencing your old "rocks" shifting or disappearing?
What if you could feel stable and secure no matter what was going on in your life?
What if you had new rocks? What if your foundation looked a bit different? What if it was an "energetic rock" that could never really be destroyed or fall away?
An unshakable foundation can only be found and created within. An unshakable foundation must have you and Spirit at it's core. Anything else can not give you unshakable security.
Open to having a new foundation. Imagine your foundation was built up with trust in the Universe, self-love, self-acceptance, belief in yourself, honouring of yourself, truth, freedom, and joy. And what if that were your foundation regardless of what the outer situation in your life is like?
And if you find yourself in a major transition right now, can you open to seeing that you still have a foundation regardless of what is happening around you?
Sometimes outer situations have to change. Sometimes relationships have to end. Sometimes you must leave a job or be laid off. Sometimes you must leave a home you love.
But if your foundation is rooted in trust in the Universe and belief in yourself you can see that whatever is happening in your life is for your highest good.
Highest good? Even when it feels as scary and emotional as this?
Yes. If something is leaving your life, take a moment to imagine why. I've come to see this "highest good" concept is not just the Universe deciding your fate in a way you may not like. It is the highest parts of who you are, guiding your life. Sometimes we will hold onto things that no longer serve us. Sometimes we can deny our true desires, holding onto what is out of false security and comfort.
But your Higher Self will cause things that no longer serve you to leave your life if you don't do it yourself.
Out of love.
Highest good means the best possible outcome. Not some imposed fate. It is the best possible outcome.
As our personality selves, we can't always see the big picture. We can't see how good life can be so we make the best out of what we have. This is good in some ways but can hold us back tremendously in some cases.
Open to seeing your higher foundation. Look at the trust you already feel, in life, in yourself. Bring up your inner knowing that everything is always working out, even when we can't see how at the time. Bring up your knowing that the Universe is friendly and lovingly guiding you even in the scariest of times.
Let that be your foundation. Build your foundation from within, I bet it's already partially built. Embrace it, strengthen it in whatever way you can. Let the foundation of your life be trust, truth and light. And when things are really being stirred up in your life you can rest in the true comfort of this foundation.
Is there something shaking your foundation in your life right now?
Does life seem to be forcing major changes all around you?
When this happens it can make us feel fear, insecurity and sometimes even shock.
We so often feel secure in our lives when the outer situations make us feel secure. But that security is an illusion as many of you have come to find out. We feel comforted by our "rocks", our home, our relationships, our job, our financial situation. But what happens when one of those rocks starts shifting or disappears altogether? All of those "rocks" can not give you a true and unshakable foundation. Why do you think it is so hard on us when any of those rocks changes?
In the last couple of years many of my old, steady "rocks" have disappeared. I know what it's like, when this happens it can feel like we lost our foundation. It can be unsettling and scary.
Have you been experiencing your old "rocks" shifting or disappearing?
What if you could feel stable and secure no matter what was going on in your life?
What if you had new rocks? What if your foundation looked a bit different? What if it was an "energetic rock" that could never really be destroyed or fall away?
An unshakable foundation can only be found and created within. An unshakable foundation must have you and Spirit at it's core. Anything else can not give you unshakable security.
Open to having a new foundation. Imagine your foundation was built up with trust in the Universe, self-love, self-acceptance, belief in yourself, honouring of yourself, truth, freedom, and joy. And what if that were your foundation regardless of what the outer situation in your life is like?
And if you find yourself in a major transition right now, can you open to seeing that you still have a foundation regardless of what is happening around you?
Sometimes outer situations have to change. Sometimes relationships have to end. Sometimes you must leave a job or be laid off. Sometimes you must leave a home you love.
But if your foundation is rooted in trust in the Universe and belief in yourself you can see that whatever is happening in your life is for your highest good.
Highest good? Even when it feels as scary and emotional as this?
Yes. If something is leaving your life, take a moment to imagine why. I've come to see this "highest good" concept is not just the Universe deciding your fate in a way you may not like. It is the highest parts of who you are, guiding your life. Sometimes we will hold onto things that no longer serve us. Sometimes we can deny our true desires, holding onto what is out of false security and comfort.
But your Higher Self will cause things that no longer serve you to leave your life if you don't do it yourself.
Out of love.
Highest good means the best possible outcome. Not some imposed fate. It is the best possible outcome.
As our personality selves, we can't always see the big picture. We can't see how good life can be so we make the best out of what we have. This is good in some ways but can hold us back tremendously in some cases.
Open to seeing your higher foundation. Look at the trust you already feel, in life, in yourself. Bring up your inner knowing that everything is always working out, even when we can't see how at the time. Bring up your knowing that the Universe is friendly and lovingly guiding you even in the scariest of times.
Let that be your foundation. Build your foundation from within, I bet it's already partially built. Embrace it, strengthen it in whatever way you can. Let the foundation of your life be trust, truth and light. And when things are really being stirred up in your life you can rest in the true comfort of this foundation.
Friday, March 13, 2009
In Times of Fear, Remember the Inner Creates the Outer
By Fia Crandall, Intuitions
It is so normal in our society to look outside ourselves for so many things. And when we hear fearful things going on in the world around us it is easy to get caught up in it. It is so easy to give in to the fear that so many are holding.
But I want to remind you of who you really are. You are an infinite being, you are more than just your physical body, your mind, your title, your ego. Those are a part of you but only a small part.
Remember who you really are. Take a moment even right now to look within. Let your thoughts fall away and focus within. Notice that there is an energy there.
Remember it? Maybe you only notice it a little bit and that's fine. But maybe it's time that you acknowledged this deeper, bigger part of you. This part of you that always KNOWS that all is well, that you are taken care of, the part of you that only knows love and abundance.
It is only us that can limit our abundance. No one outside of us can do that to us without our allowing of it. And we limit our abundance so easily by allowing restrictive thoughts and going into fear.
Feel the energy of that fear and nervousness. It wants you to shrink down and feel lower than you are. It wants to lower your vibration.
And what does that mean? It is an illusion. And one you don't have to buy into.
You are not alone and you are not small. There is a deeper, wiser part of you that is your true source of abundance. And you aligning with this energy of abundance and love will help you let go of fear and begin to move into trust. And it is this shift of energy that will help you create abundance in your outer reality.
No matter what.
Remember, the inner creates the outer. If you hold fear, the Universe brings you what matches your energy, which means more to fear. If you hold trust and the vibration of abundance, you can manifest that in your outer reality. No need to fear your thoughts, just lovingly notice when you are in fear or nervousness and remember that the inner creates the outer and that you have a choice in any moment to remember spirit. To remember that your true nature is only abundance.
Copyright 2009 Fia Crandall
It is so normal in our society to look outside ourselves for so many things. And when we hear fearful things going on in the world around us it is easy to get caught up in it. It is so easy to give in to the fear that so many are holding.
But I want to remind you of who you really are. You are an infinite being, you are more than just your physical body, your mind, your title, your ego. Those are a part of you but only a small part.
Remember who you really are. Take a moment even right now to look within. Let your thoughts fall away and focus within. Notice that there is an energy there.
Remember it? Maybe you only notice it a little bit and that's fine. But maybe it's time that you acknowledged this deeper, bigger part of you. This part of you that always KNOWS that all is well, that you are taken care of, the part of you that only knows love and abundance.
It is only us that can limit our abundance. No one outside of us can do that to us without our allowing of it. And we limit our abundance so easily by allowing restrictive thoughts and going into fear.
Feel the energy of that fear and nervousness. It wants you to shrink down and feel lower than you are. It wants to lower your vibration.
And what does that mean? It is an illusion. And one you don't have to buy into.
You are not alone and you are not small. There is a deeper, wiser part of you that is your true source of abundance. And you aligning with this energy of abundance and love will help you let go of fear and begin to move into trust. And it is this shift of energy that will help you create abundance in your outer reality.
No matter what.
Remember, the inner creates the outer. If you hold fear, the Universe brings you what matches your energy, which means more to fear. If you hold trust and the vibration of abundance, you can manifest that in your outer reality. No need to fear your thoughts, just lovingly notice when you are in fear or nervousness and remember that the inner creates the outer and that you have a choice in any moment to remember spirit. To remember that your true nature is only abundance.
Copyright 2009 Fia Crandall
Monday, December 15, 2008
Shifting Your Energy from Lack to Fulfillment
Copyright 2008 Fia Crandall
Do you find yourself feeling disappointed sometimes with the way things are in your life?
Do you find yourself thinking... with all I know and all I have, why am I not as happy as I think I should be?
With all I've done to create the life I want, why am I not feeling fulfilled like I think I should?
I know what it's like. To know so much, to have so many tools, yet looking around at your life and not seeing it be the way you want. Or maybe having a lot of what you want and not being capable of feeling the joy you thought it would bring you.
I have learned that no matter what happens on the outside, no matter how good the outer is matching what you wanted, you still have to become the person who is happy and who enjoys life. If you don't become this person, it can be an empty chase of the outer trying to make you feel better within.
What have you had your fixed focus on manifesting? For me it was always career. To do what I love full-time. When this outer reality finally appeared I realized something. I hadn't shifted who I was to be the person who could fully live this in a way that felt good throughout the days.
The truth is, the outer can't make you feel good. And I love finally knowing that when you become the person who feels good, the outer manifestations you want come so much easier. And more than that, they just add to how good you already feel, rather than make you feel good.
What a shift.
Sound like something that you're ready for?
Take action. Let's get you started moving toward this reality.
Light the Path to Your Potential Action:
Give yourself 5 to 10 minutes of time to yourself where you can be undistracted and really give yourself the space to connect with this new you, the person who fully enjoys life.
Pull out a pen and paper and let yourself get quiet, get comfortable and relax.
Close your eyes and let yourself imagine what life would be like if you had all you wanted and lived a life you fully enjoyed. Let the scene play out in your mind. Let yourself really tap into the feeling space of that life. Notice the vibration you hold as you live this life. Let yourself be in this state for as long as you like.
And realize that you created this feeling out of thin air. You are fully capable of feeling this way now. Let yourself tap into this feeling as often as you like and become the person who feels like this as your normal state.
Are you tired of doing all you can and not being able to fully enjoy your life on a consistent basis?
Is there something within you saying "it's time", time for you to give yourself the support you need to really make the shift in your life that you're ready for...
To step out of disappointment and "trying" and to really move yourself forward to that next level and to the fulfillment and abundance that's waiting for you?
I'd love to help you get there, and I have a step by step process to help you do that. Give yourself the gift of starting on the journey from here to being that person who fully enjoys their life and is in a place where creating is so much easier. Book your free "Light Up Your Potential" Call with me to get clear about what is really going on and what the path to that fulfilling reality really looks like for you.
Do you find yourself feeling disappointed sometimes with the way things are in your life?
Do you find yourself thinking... with all I know and all I have, why am I not as happy as I think I should be?
With all I've done to create the life I want, why am I not feeling fulfilled like I think I should?
I know what it's like. To know so much, to have so many tools, yet looking around at your life and not seeing it be the way you want. Or maybe having a lot of what you want and not being capable of feeling the joy you thought it would bring you.
I have learned that no matter what happens on the outside, no matter how good the outer is matching what you wanted, you still have to become the person who is happy and who enjoys life. If you don't become this person, it can be an empty chase of the outer trying to make you feel better within.
What have you had your fixed focus on manifesting? For me it was always career. To do what I love full-time. When this outer reality finally appeared I realized something. I hadn't shifted who I was to be the person who could fully live this in a way that felt good throughout the days.
The truth is, the outer can't make you feel good. And I love finally knowing that when you become the person who feels good, the outer manifestations you want come so much easier. And more than that, they just add to how good you already feel, rather than make you feel good.
What a shift.
Sound like something that you're ready for?
Take action. Let's get you started moving toward this reality.
Light the Path to Your Potential Action:
Give yourself 5 to 10 minutes of time to yourself where you can be undistracted and really give yourself the space to connect with this new you, the person who fully enjoys life.
Pull out a pen and paper and let yourself get quiet, get comfortable and relax.
Close your eyes and let yourself imagine what life would be like if you had all you wanted and lived a life you fully enjoyed. Let the scene play out in your mind. Let yourself really tap into the feeling space of that life. Notice the vibration you hold as you live this life. Let yourself be in this state for as long as you like.
And realize that you created this feeling out of thin air. You are fully capable of feeling this way now. Let yourself tap into this feeling as often as you like and become the person who feels like this as your normal state.
Are you tired of doing all you can and not being able to fully enjoy your life on a consistent basis?
Is there something within you saying "it's time", time for you to give yourself the support you need to really make the shift in your life that you're ready for...
To step out of disappointment and "trying" and to really move yourself forward to that next level and to the fulfillment and abundance that's waiting for you?
I'd love to help you get there, and I have a step by step process to help you do that. Give yourself the gift of starting on the journey from here to being that person who fully enjoys their life and is in a place where creating is so much easier. Book your free "Light Up Your Potential" Call with me to get clear about what is really going on and what the path to that fulfilling reality really looks like for you.
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Open to a New Way of Seeing Things
Copyright 2008 Fia Crandall
What if every single thing that happened in my life, happened to lead me to the life I have always wanted to live?
What if all the challenges I faced were to not just help me grow, but to help take me to my most amazing life?
To help me become the person I need to be to be able to attract and live that life as my reality?
What if the Universe is fully supporting me and always has been, to move into the life that calls to my heart?
How would I be different if I believed this at a deep level?
How would I approach the challenges that came my way, knowing that with each one I grow I get that much closer to all I want?
What if I truly knew the Universe was supporting me 100% in helping me create the life I have always wanted?
Would I get frustrated when challenges come up, or would I be grateful for the opportunity to take me forward?
Would I just have the determination to quickly move through the challenges I face, knowing the good that will come of them?
Would I still focus on what is not working or would I start to see all the magnificent ways the Universe is supporting me?
What if everything that happened to me, happened to take me to the life that makes my heart sing?
This is the truth that I have found and with this truth came an understanding that truly supports me. One that has led me to continuous, conscious
forward movement, into living a life that gets more and more amazing all the time. Despite any challenges that come my way.
What if every single thing that happened in my life, happened to lead me to the life I have always wanted to live?
What if all the challenges I faced were to not just help me grow, but to help take me to my most amazing life?
To help me become the person I need to be to be able to attract and live that life as my reality?
What if the Universe is fully supporting me and always has been, to move into the life that calls to my heart?
How would I be different if I believed this at a deep level?
How would I approach the challenges that came my way, knowing that with each one I grow I get that much closer to all I want?
What if I truly knew the Universe was supporting me 100% in helping me create the life I have always wanted?
Would I get frustrated when challenges come up, or would I be grateful for the opportunity to take me forward?
Would I just have the determination to quickly move through the challenges I face, knowing the good that will come of them?
Would I still focus on what is not working or would I start to see all the magnificent ways the Universe is supporting me?
What if everything that happened to me, happened to take me to the life that makes my heart sing?
This is the truth that I have found and with this truth came an understanding that truly supports me. One that has led me to continuous, conscious
forward movement, into living a life that gets more and more amazing all the time. Despite any challenges that come my way.
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