Do you ever get the feeling that you are being "squished" into something that you're not? Like you really are a square peg trying to force yourself into a round hole but it's not really working and you're getting tired of it?
I want to share with you something I found to be very powerful that I hope changes your views on yourself and how you are designed.
When I was in my old nine to five job I had always felt this resistance to the fact that I had to be there for those eight hours, no matter what. There was even a point in my career where there was absolutely no work for us to do and we STILL had to come in for those eight hours. It always bugged me.
Now at first I just thought it was because I wanted a dream life where I could make my own schedule and wake up when I wanted and end my days when I wanted. Now this is partly true but recently I realized something big!
I am not a nine to five person. I actually found out that my energy runs differently than what is expected when you show up for your eight hour shifts. I actually work in bursts of energy where I have this insane efficiency and get massive work done in a very short time. And I also have plenty of time where I really don't do that much at all.
I thought I was lazy or something. But looking at it now, this is really just my natural rhythm. I rest and become more receptive for a time then when it's time to take action I have full and intense energy that takes me ahead by leaps and bounds. But it's a rhythm that I need to operate in to be the most efficient.
I used to think I was a "crammer" in University. I wouldn't study until almost the day before for most exams. And it worked. I thought I was "doing it wrong" but recently I realized that no, I wasn't "doing it wrong", I just needed that downtime before the burst of energy that was sure to come along to help me do what I needed to do very efficiently.
So what does this have to do with you?
You have a way that is YOU. It is natural to you, it makes sense and it is not a bad thing. In fact, I truly believe that the work that you are uniquely designed for must be done YOUR WAY by you.
I resisted the nine to five not just because I wanted freedom. Yes I did want freedom, but it is more than that, I am actually designed to work in a certain way that allows me to do what I came here to do in the most effective and powerful way.
I need lots of down time now so I can bring through the inspiration that I'm meant to share with those I'm meant to serve. And because I allow this I bring through what is SO connected with those I'm here to serve, I hear about it all the time.
And my life is set up to match Who I Am. I stopped trying to fit myself into that round hole and instead I created (or stepped into) my place in the world that is exactly designed for me. I am free, because for me to be free means I can serve those I'm meant to serve in the highest way a way that feels wonderful and natural to me.
Can you begin to embrace the idea that your resistance you feel to certain things is actually telling you that you are meant to approach things in a different way?
That maybe you?re not being selfish for wanting to do things differently, that maybe it actually allows you to Be Who You Came Here to Be in the fullest, most meaningful way?
Activating Your Authentic Way
Allow yourself to get quiet for a moment. Imagine an ocean wave of light washes over you and takes away any tension, thoughts and stresses. Just let it go.
Now ask to be shown what resistance is showing up in your life that is actually showing you an opportunity to discover "your way".
And once you receive this, ask: "what is my way here"?
And to allow this way to more gently come into reality ask: "how can I embrace my authentic way within the exact same outer situation"?
Even when I was in my nine to five I allowed myself to work "my way". I got together my "to do" list for the day and didn't act until I felt like it. I'd start with the task with the most energy and most of the time while I was doing that I'd run into people I needed to talk to in order to take care of my other tasks on my list.
So start now, wherever you are, to embrace "your way".
And I'd like to also spark within you the idea that your entire life not only can be "your way" but is meant to be "your way".
Copyright 2009 Fia Crandall
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Thursday, October 8, 2009
Stop Pretending You Don’t Have Negative Emotions!
One thing that I have found is a common challenge on this path is that spiritually conscious people tend to not allow themselves to feel their negative emotions. They are strong, capable people who in general are very positive, yet in order to “stay positive” and have things “going good” they often ignore their emotions.
Sound familiar?
It is also a common fear that if you let yourself feel your negative emotions, you will plunge to the depths of them and never get out. That if you feel hurt by what someone says and you just let yourself feel it you are dwelling on it and it’s going to feel worse.
I really want to shed some light on this because it is one of the most damaging things I see spiritually conscious people tend to do to themselves. First, let’s look at what is really happening when you ignore or deny your emotions.
Do you often feel like people don’t seem to care about you as much as you want them to? About your needs and how you feel? Is your partner hurtful without realizing? Do you give so much and receive little in return?
These are all situations that you tend to attract when you are ignoring your negative emotions. And of course, this furthers the emotional denial because you are upset and it appears as though they are causing it… but they’re not. YOU are unconsciously.
Why does this happen?
Let’s go back to basic Law of Attraction, you attract what matches your energy.
By ignoring your negative emotions, what do you think is happening energetically?
You are saying that your feelings do not matter. It doesn’t matter that you’re hurt, sad, angry, in pain, heartbroken. You literally send out a vibrational message that you are not important and don’t matter.
So if that’s happening energetically, what do you think you attract?
People who tend to treat you as if you don’t matter, they don’t consider your feelings or needs. Or, you attract this behavior from the people in your life, even if they don’t mean to be like this.
And, by the way, if you are not allowing yourself to feel a negative emotion, you may think you are tricking the Law of Attraction but you’re not. You attract what matches your ENERGY. If you allow your emotions to flow, they dissipate, if you deny them, they become a part of your energy field and you attract more that matches them.
But the good news is that you can turn this around, and it doesn’t have to be as difficult as you think.
Now I want to be clear up front that I am suggesting this for everyday situations where you are experiencing a not-too-deep or intense negative emotion. Deeper negative emotions tend to point to stronger, deeper energetic patterns. I don’t suggest you try to make those go away by just feeling them as they are energetically anchored into your energy field and they are there for a reason you must resolve before they will release. I prefer an easier way to shift old patterns and that is using my Intuitive Healing Process. Or if you feel it may be a psychological issue, definitely seek professional help to get through it so you can get to a place of honoring yourself and feeling your emotions as you can see it is very important!
So, let’s shift the energy around this so you can be attracting better treatment from those in your life and so you can begin to feel important, honored and valued.
It all starts with you and how you treat yourself, when I say express your emotions, I mean get them out. This doesn’t mean everyone needs to know what your emotions are, again, this centers around YOU and I don’t even care if you’re the only one who knows about them at this point. In fact, it can feel good to get your negative emotions out on paper then rip it up and dispose of it, it’s a freeing experience!
Now first, I want to go back to the fear most people have, that if you let yourself feel your negative emotions you will be consumed by them. I have found that if your intention beforehand is to honor yourself and to feel better in doing so, the more you allow yourself to feel your emotions, the more they just dissipate as you get to the depths of them! Okay, so next time you feel a slightly negative emotion coming up, instead of just brushing it off or pretending you’re fine, here’s what I want you to do:
1. Stop and give yourself some quiet time to yourself and get out your journal. Even a piece of paper will do if you don’t have a journal yet, you can even throw it away after if you don’t want anyone to see it. The point is not to have a record of your emotions, the point is to EXPRESS your emotions.
2. Start out by setting an intention or asking for support, silently or on paper. This can go something like “Please help me to honor myself and my emotions and to get to a place of feeling better”, or “I intend to go higher.” This can really make the time you spend most effective so you don’t feel like you’re dwelling on your negative emotions. You are not doing this to punish yourself, you are doing it to HONOR yourself.
3. You can also imagine yourself surrounded by the light of your Higher Self or Source, so that as you allow yourself to face your emotions, you are allowing a higher vibration to replace them. If your negative emotions are like a dark room, you are surrounding that dark room with light and by allowing yourself to feel them you are in essence opening the door and allowing the light to flood in.
4. Start writing out how you feel. You can even start your sentence off with “I feel…” and go from there. And as you are writing, let yourself FEEL your negative emotions. Don’t just write and focus on how others are behaving, that’s not the point, the point is to feel your emotions so they can begin to dissipate. And again, the point is also to honor yourself and send out the vibration of “my feelings are important, I am important!”
5. Continue until you feel relief and you feel a bit lighter.
6. Once you feel some relief, celebrate that you have taken a big step by honoring yourself and your emotions!
7. To end on a positive note, begin to write about how you want to feel and as you do, allow yourself to feel these positive, good-feeling emotions.
Making yourself a priority and honoring yourself and your emotions is an important part of your journey. This shift to allowing yourself to feel your emotions is one of the most important one you can make, and until you show you’re important you can’t attract different from others!
Copyright 2009 Fia Crandall
Sound familiar?
It is also a common fear that if you let yourself feel your negative emotions, you will plunge to the depths of them and never get out. That if you feel hurt by what someone says and you just let yourself feel it you are dwelling on it and it’s going to feel worse.
I really want to shed some light on this because it is one of the most damaging things I see spiritually conscious people tend to do to themselves. First, let’s look at what is really happening when you ignore or deny your emotions.
Do you often feel like people don’t seem to care about you as much as you want them to? About your needs and how you feel? Is your partner hurtful without realizing? Do you give so much and receive little in return?
These are all situations that you tend to attract when you are ignoring your negative emotions. And of course, this furthers the emotional denial because you are upset and it appears as though they are causing it… but they’re not. YOU are unconsciously.
Why does this happen?
Let’s go back to basic Law of Attraction, you attract what matches your energy.
By ignoring your negative emotions, what do you think is happening energetically?
You are saying that your feelings do not matter. It doesn’t matter that you’re hurt, sad, angry, in pain, heartbroken. You literally send out a vibrational message that you are not important and don’t matter.
So if that’s happening energetically, what do you think you attract?
People who tend to treat you as if you don’t matter, they don’t consider your feelings or needs. Or, you attract this behavior from the people in your life, even if they don’t mean to be like this.
And, by the way, if you are not allowing yourself to feel a negative emotion, you may think you are tricking the Law of Attraction but you’re not. You attract what matches your ENERGY. If you allow your emotions to flow, they dissipate, if you deny them, they become a part of your energy field and you attract more that matches them.
But the good news is that you can turn this around, and it doesn’t have to be as difficult as you think.
Now I want to be clear up front that I am suggesting this for everyday situations where you are experiencing a not-too-deep or intense negative emotion. Deeper negative emotions tend to point to stronger, deeper energetic patterns. I don’t suggest you try to make those go away by just feeling them as they are energetically anchored into your energy field and they are there for a reason you must resolve before they will release. I prefer an easier way to shift old patterns and that is using my Intuitive Healing Process. Or if you feel it may be a psychological issue, definitely seek professional help to get through it so you can get to a place of honoring yourself and feeling your emotions as you can see it is very important!
So, let’s shift the energy around this so you can be attracting better treatment from those in your life and so you can begin to feel important, honored and valued.
It all starts with you and how you treat yourself, when I say express your emotions, I mean get them out. This doesn’t mean everyone needs to know what your emotions are, again, this centers around YOU and I don’t even care if you’re the only one who knows about them at this point. In fact, it can feel good to get your negative emotions out on paper then rip it up and dispose of it, it’s a freeing experience!
Now first, I want to go back to the fear most people have, that if you let yourself feel your negative emotions you will be consumed by them. I have found that if your intention beforehand is to honor yourself and to feel better in doing so, the more you allow yourself to feel your emotions, the more they just dissipate as you get to the depths of them! Okay, so next time you feel a slightly negative emotion coming up, instead of just brushing it off or pretending you’re fine, here’s what I want you to do:
1. Stop and give yourself some quiet time to yourself and get out your journal. Even a piece of paper will do if you don’t have a journal yet, you can even throw it away after if you don’t want anyone to see it. The point is not to have a record of your emotions, the point is to EXPRESS your emotions.
2. Start out by setting an intention or asking for support, silently or on paper. This can go something like “Please help me to honor myself and my emotions and to get to a place of feeling better”, or “I intend to go higher.” This can really make the time you spend most effective so you don’t feel like you’re dwelling on your negative emotions. You are not doing this to punish yourself, you are doing it to HONOR yourself.
3. You can also imagine yourself surrounded by the light of your Higher Self or Source, so that as you allow yourself to face your emotions, you are allowing a higher vibration to replace them. If your negative emotions are like a dark room, you are surrounding that dark room with light and by allowing yourself to feel them you are in essence opening the door and allowing the light to flood in.
4. Start writing out how you feel. You can even start your sentence off with “I feel…” and go from there. And as you are writing, let yourself FEEL your negative emotions. Don’t just write and focus on how others are behaving, that’s not the point, the point is to feel your emotions so they can begin to dissipate. And again, the point is also to honor yourself and send out the vibration of “my feelings are important, I am important!”
5. Continue until you feel relief and you feel a bit lighter.
6. Once you feel some relief, celebrate that you have taken a big step by honoring yourself and your emotions!
7. To end on a positive note, begin to write about how you want to feel and as you do, allow yourself to feel these positive, good-feeling emotions.
Making yourself a priority and honoring yourself and your emotions is an important part of your journey. This shift to allowing yourself to feel your emotions is one of the most important one you can make, and until you show you’re important you can’t attract different from others!
Copyright 2009 Fia Crandall
Monday, September 28, 2009
The Comforting Truth About Your Intuition
By Fia Crandall, Intuitions
Do you know you have intuition, but are sometimes afraid to check in with it in certain situations in your life? This can mean that part of you fears your intuition. This is actually quite common and can really slow down the progress in your life in the important areas you are afraid to check in on.
Why does this happen? Why would you fear your intuition?
This happens often when the logical mind sees a blank, it can’t figure out how something can happen, it can’t see the way. And when it does not see a possible way things can work out, it tends to automatically put scary pictures where the blank darkness of the unknown is.
It tends to think that in order for things to get better, there must be a huge leap that must be made. And that big leap is scary. “What if I fall? What if things end up being worse than they are now? What if….?” And the list goes on of all the things to fear.
Now this is normal for most people but as a spiritually conscious person, if this is happening you are forgetting about an incredible tool that you have within you.
Your intuition.
I have found that your intuition is really more like a best friend or a very loving parent. It gives you guidance from the most loving source of all, from your Higher Self, from Source, from the Universe, whatever you want to call it, it is giving you guidance from a higher source that knows only love.
Let’s go back to those areas that you are afraid to deal with because you think that a big leap must be involved. And remember, your mind, because it couldn’t see the way, assumed that it MUST be a big leap. Beyond the darkness must lie a big cliff with possibly no bottom.
Now how encouraging is this? Forget it. You would rather just have things be the same, even if it’s nowhere near where you want it to be.
So back to this cliff, what if this time you do something different? Let’s say that rather than assume it’s a big scary cliff you stop and ask for guidance… What happens?
I just love what happens…
You turn on a light.
You can see.
The darkness disappears.
You get to see the truth of what you have been afraid to see.
And so just what do you see?
In my experience, most often, what I find is that you see your next step.
That’s right, no big scary cliff, no major life change that has your world being turned upside down. Just your next step.
Now I have had to take a few big leaps in my own journey, but really they were not that big, and actually at that particular point my next logical step was a leap.
I KNEW it was time to start my business even though I just built a brand new house and had just been laid off from my engineering job. Sounds like a leap but at the time I KNEW it was my next step. I knew it was time to leave my old part-time Engineering job behind even though it was a bit of a leap, but again, it was my next logical step. There were a few more like that but again, they were my next logical steps at the time.
But you know what? Most of the time, especially if you are experiencing fear more than trust on a regular basis, there is no cliff.
I said it before, the Universe is LOVING. It’s not going to make you jump off of scary cliffs into the darkness!
It wants to show you the way, it wants to light up your path. It wants you to feel safe and confident.
And it wants you to take a leap only when it is time to take a leap. And by that point your trust and inner knowing will likely be strong enough that there is courage in place of fear. This has been my experience over and over.
The truth is, for the most part, when you ask for guidance, you get your next smallest step. It’s easy, it’s even logical, and it is your next STEP, not leap.
So going back to this darkness image again… without intuition, you see darkness and your mind assumes big, scary cliff. So you don’t want to check in with your intuition or ask for guidance because a part of you thinks that you are going to be asked to jump and you don’t want to do that so you’d rather not ask.
It’s time to rethink this!
Open to a new way. I love ease and one of the most important keys to ease is intuition. Intuition is your link with the higher plan, the bigger picture that you can’t see from your limited perspective.
Intuition knows the shortcuts, it knows the way that is the most fun and enjoyable.
It can put light where there is darkness and it can help your fear dissolve in the light of truth.
And more often than not it shows you your next step. It gives you a sense of peace and clarity that could not ever come from your logical mind. Intuition is beyond logic and that’s a good thing. Intuition lives in the realm of possibility and “how life can be”.
The Universe knows what you want! And your intuition is your guidance system to help you move along your path, helping you to move forward with ease.
Because struggle is an energy that we can now leave behind for good. And I know that it is part of my purpose to help people out of this struggle, and here is a first step for you.
I challenge you right now, especially in those areas that scare you the most, ask for guidance. You can even visualize shining light on the area you want to find out more about. And ask to be shown how it CAN be, ask to be shown the higher perspective. Ask what you have been afraid to ask before.
And if you don’t want cliffs, don’t ask cliff questions!
Don’t ask “should I leave my current relationship/job/home?” Remember, most often your next step is not a leap so don’t assume it is!
Instead ask: “What do I need to know to improve this relationship/job/home?” or “What is this relationship/job calling me to learn right now?” or “What is my next step toward what I am really wanting in this area?”
Move away from scary cliff thinking. To do that, assume there is a next smaller step and ask about it. And if it comes a time when you must make a leap you will have developed your trust and inner knowing to the point that you would not even need to ask if it’s time to take a leap, you will know. And you will have courage and trust and a deep inner knowing that you need to make a leap. But for now, trust that there is a next, easy, logical step and ask.
Copyright 2009 Fia Crandall
Do you know you have intuition, but are sometimes afraid to check in with it in certain situations in your life? This can mean that part of you fears your intuition. This is actually quite common and can really slow down the progress in your life in the important areas you are afraid to check in on.
Why does this happen? Why would you fear your intuition?
This happens often when the logical mind sees a blank, it can’t figure out how something can happen, it can’t see the way. And when it does not see a possible way things can work out, it tends to automatically put scary pictures where the blank darkness of the unknown is.
It tends to think that in order for things to get better, there must be a huge leap that must be made. And that big leap is scary. “What if I fall? What if things end up being worse than they are now? What if….?” And the list goes on of all the things to fear.
Now this is normal for most people but as a spiritually conscious person, if this is happening you are forgetting about an incredible tool that you have within you.
Your intuition.
I have found that your intuition is really more like a best friend or a very loving parent. It gives you guidance from the most loving source of all, from your Higher Self, from Source, from the Universe, whatever you want to call it, it is giving you guidance from a higher source that knows only love.
Let’s go back to those areas that you are afraid to deal with because you think that a big leap must be involved. And remember, your mind, because it couldn’t see the way, assumed that it MUST be a big leap. Beyond the darkness must lie a big cliff with possibly no bottom.
Now how encouraging is this? Forget it. You would rather just have things be the same, even if it’s nowhere near where you want it to be.
So back to this cliff, what if this time you do something different? Let’s say that rather than assume it’s a big scary cliff you stop and ask for guidance… What happens?
I just love what happens…
You turn on a light.
You can see.
The darkness disappears.
You get to see the truth of what you have been afraid to see.
And so just what do you see?
In my experience, most often, what I find is that you see your next step.
That’s right, no big scary cliff, no major life change that has your world being turned upside down. Just your next step.
Now I have had to take a few big leaps in my own journey, but really they were not that big, and actually at that particular point my next logical step was a leap.
I KNEW it was time to start my business even though I just built a brand new house and had just been laid off from my engineering job. Sounds like a leap but at the time I KNEW it was my next step. I knew it was time to leave my old part-time Engineering job behind even though it was a bit of a leap, but again, it was my next logical step. There were a few more like that but again, they were my next logical steps at the time.
But you know what? Most of the time, especially if you are experiencing fear more than trust on a regular basis, there is no cliff.
I said it before, the Universe is LOVING. It’s not going to make you jump off of scary cliffs into the darkness!
It wants to show you the way, it wants to light up your path. It wants you to feel safe and confident.
And it wants you to take a leap only when it is time to take a leap. And by that point your trust and inner knowing will likely be strong enough that there is courage in place of fear. This has been my experience over and over.
The truth is, for the most part, when you ask for guidance, you get your next smallest step. It’s easy, it’s even logical, and it is your next STEP, not leap.
So going back to this darkness image again… without intuition, you see darkness and your mind assumes big, scary cliff. So you don’t want to check in with your intuition or ask for guidance because a part of you thinks that you are going to be asked to jump and you don’t want to do that so you’d rather not ask.
It’s time to rethink this!
Open to a new way. I love ease and one of the most important keys to ease is intuition. Intuition is your link with the higher plan, the bigger picture that you can’t see from your limited perspective.
Intuition knows the shortcuts, it knows the way that is the most fun and enjoyable.
It can put light where there is darkness and it can help your fear dissolve in the light of truth.
And more often than not it shows you your next step. It gives you a sense of peace and clarity that could not ever come from your logical mind. Intuition is beyond logic and that’s a good thing. Intuition lives in the realm of possibility and “how life can be”.
The Universe knows what you want! And your intuition is your guidance system to help you move along your path, helping you to move forward with ease.
Because struggle is an energy that we can now leave behind for good. And I know that it is part of my purpose to help people out of this struggle, and here is a first step for you.
I challenge you right now, especially in those areas that scare you the most, ask for guidance. You can even visualize shining light on the area you want to find out more about. And ask to be shown how it CAN be, ask to be shown the higher perspective. Ask what you have been afraid to ask before.
And if you don’t want cliffs, don’t ask cliff questions!
Don’t ask “should I leave my current relationship/job/home?” Remember, most often your next step is not a leap so don’t assume it is!
Instead ask: “What do I need to know to improve this relationship/job/home?” or “What is this relationship/job calling me to learn right now?” or “What is my next step toward what I am really wanting in this area?”
Move away from scary cliff thinking. To do that, assume there is a next smaller step and ask about it. And if it comes a time when you must make a leap you will have developed your trust and inner knowing to the point that you would not even need to ask if it’s time to take a leap, you will know. And you will have courage and trust and a deep inner knowing that you need to make a leap. But for now, trust that there is a next, easy, logical step and ask.
Copyright 2009 Fia Crandall
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